Did you ever have an experience where you shifted the way you looked at a situation and it changed the outcome?
I know we have. Like the time when we were shortlisted to win a really big packaging project, and another agency pipped us at the post. We were a little devastated about that pitch. We spent a week analysing what could possibly have gone wrong and beating ourselves up. But guess what? A few weeks later another big client came our way and that client became one of our most treasured relationships.
We quickly shifted to being grateful for not winning the first project because there would have been no space to take on the second client. And that would have been a tragedy. We now try to have the attitude – everything happens for a reason. It’s not always easy to have this mindset. We find ourselves falling back into old patterns ‘where the world is falling in’ but what we have done is set ourselves triggers to quickly shift out of this mindset into one of positivity and sunshine.
It’s often easy to look back in retrospect at a seemingly negative experience and then see the silver lining. The key is to shift to positivity in the moment.
“Believing in negative thoughts is the single greatest obstruction to success.” ― Charles F. Glassman
“I remember a time as a kid when I didn’t make the netball team. It had such a big impact on me. I remember feeling worthless and not good enough. My sister had been a sporting champion at my school and I felt like a failure. 26 years later I can still remember what it felt like to not have your name called out when the team was announced. Mum and Dad tried to cheer me up. They bought me a netball to practice with. Dad showed me a trick… practice shooting goals every single day, and see how things change for you. I can’t say I practised every day, but I practised a fair bit, and next year I made the team. The most important piece here is that the experience taught me about the process of mastery, and how to pick yourself up after a fall. How to have grit. I am so grateful that I didn’t make the netball team that year because I gained something so much more valuable. A philosophy to live by.” Emma Scott
“The thing with ‘negative experiences’ or ‘failures’ is that they are actually ‘lessons’ and ‘growth’. When they happen it can be hard to see past the situation. But down the track you’ll suddenly realise that what you thought was ‘bad’ was actually in your best interest. Like when I was 25. Working away in a job, never really reflecting on if it was the right thing for me. Never really thinking that much at all. Going out with friends, enjoying life. One ordinary Thursday at 11am the company went under. My boss stood up and told us we could all go home. Right now? Yep. Right now. Seems like a ‘negative experience’ Right? But it set me on my path of starting my first business. I am a creator at heart and that was the universe giving me a little shove in the right direction. So when you are going through a tough patch try and remember. This is all part of the journey!” Jodie de Vries
So how do we shift to a positive mindset?
It takes practice and a few tactics, but the more you do it, the more it becomes second nature.
6 TIPS ON HOW TO ACHIEVE A POSITIVE MINDSET
1. Positive affirmations
Start your day by saying a few positive affirmations out loud. Set the intention for the day. You’ll be surprised at how quickly your mindset shifts.
They can be as simple as…
‘Today I am going to be awesome.’
‘Today I am going to see the positive in every situation.’
‘I am so excited to have a great day today.’
‘Every experience I have today will take me towards my goals.’
‘Today I am going to have fun.’
2. Focus on good things that happen
Even if it is as small as someone bringing you a coffee in the morning, recognise the positive experience and express your gratitude. Take the time to notice and acknowledge these experiences. Don’t just let them pass you by.
3. Turn failures into lessons
When something doesn’t go quite right, don’t beat yourself up. Take note of the learnings, actually write them down and grow from the experience. Look at it as part of your schooling.
4. Surround yourself with positive people
Have you ever felt deflated when you have been spending time with someone that finds the drama or the negative in every situation? I know we have. You have a choice in terms of who you spend your precious time with. Surround yourself with people that see the positive in situations, people that will lift you up. And think about being a guiding light for the people around you. They say we are the sum of the five closest people around us, so choose wisely.
5. Be present
It’s very easy to go down a rabbit hole of stress when you focus too much on the future or the past. What if we can’t pay our staff this month? What if this project doesn’t work? What if? What if? It creates unnecessary drama. In fact most sources of negativity come from a past event or a potential future event exaggerated in your imagination. Stay in the right now and be present and you will find you are much happier.
6. Find humour in bad situations
Every day you are going to be thrown into situations that may be a little challenging. What if you looked at the situation differently? Rather than having a meltdown or thinking it’s armageddon try to find the humour in it. Now we don’t mean ignore the learnings or be disrespectful, we just mean think about how you process it and choose the way you respond. Make the situation a little lighter.
Without positivity in the way you approach business you will find it hard to grow. Getting stuck in negative talk could mean you don’t see and take onboard the learnings from certain situations. It can also mean you miss opportunities to work with others that could bring so much to your business. A negative attitude becomes a pretty strong repellent for people. As human beings we are naturally drawn to those that express a glass half full attitude. The physical and mental benefits of positive thinking have been quantified by many scientific studies.
So, why is it important to have a positive mindset?
We took a look at a positive thinking study, published in March 2016 in the Journal of Behavior Research and Therapy, where researchers from Kings College in London tested 102 subjects diagnosed with anxiety disorder. They asked one group to visualise an image of a positive outcome to each of the three worries they’d had in the past week and another group to visualise any positive image whenever they started to worry. The two groups that visualised a positive image reported greater happiness, restfulness and decreased anxiety.
We also looked at an article published in the December 2005 issue of Psychological Bulletin, that examined studies of over 275,000 people and found that the happiest people owe their success, in part, to their optimism and positive outlook. Dr. Lyubomirsky, head researcher from UC Riverside concluded, “When people feel happy, they tend to feel confident, optimistic and energetic and others find them likeable and sociable.
YOU CAN SHIFT YOUR MINDSET TODAY
The great thing is that you can employ simple tactics and actually make change today. You don’t need to see someone or spend a heap of money on training, you can do this yourself. It’s all about consistency in the practice. We would love to hear about how you have shifted your mindset, please send us a message at [email protected]
Jodie + Em xx